{"id":166207,"date":"2021-10-06T10:30:55","date_gmt":"2021-10-06T09:30:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/realbusiness.co.uk\/?p=166207"},"modified":"2024-03-28T05:49:06","modified_gmt":"2024-03-28T05:49:06","slug":"loved-one-tired-workaholic-3-strategies-help-heal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/realbusiness.co.uk\/loved-one-tired-workaholic-3-strategies-help-heal","title":{"rendered":"Are You or Your Loved One Tired of Being a Workaholic? 3 Strategies to Help You Heal"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Addictions Therapist and Founder of Love With Boundaries, Candace Plattor, explains how you can overcome the inner compulsion of always working, as well as feeling guilty when you’re not working, in 3 simple strategies.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In our last two articles about helping a loved one who is a workaholic, we explored what workaholism can look like as well as the pitfalls of staying entrenched in this addictive behaviour.\u00a0 If you haven\u2019t read them, you can find them here.<\/a><\/p>\n

In this third and final article of this series, I\u2019ll show you a few strategies you can try to shift both your thinking and your behaviour if you are struggling with this issue \u2013 or if you know someone who is.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s start with a reminder that workaholism can only exist when we make the decision to allow others to give us more than our share of the work, or when we choose to work harder than those around us.\u00a0 There could be many underlying reasons for why we do that \u2013 and it\u2019s good to seek out some help when we need it to figure that out.\u00a0 Self-awareness is always the first step towards change, so please don\u2019t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.<\/p>\n

Workaholism is a form of codependency, which occurs when we put others\u2019 needs ahead of our own on a fairly consistent basis. Many people who struggle with workaholism often communicate with those around them in passive-aggressive<\/em><\/strong> ways, because they feel resentful and angry inside but often don\u2019t tell anyone they feel that way \u2013 until they explode.\u00a0 This type of coping can be very confusing to people around them and can lead to negative consequences such as alienating people or even getting fired.<\/p>\n

Another coping behaviour can be labelled as passive<\/em><\/strong>, where those feelings remain inside, never to be expressed verbally. Yet another way to cope is to become aggressive<\/em><\/strong> – lashing out, making threats, becoming violent and possibly even ending up in jail.<\/p>\n

But the healthiest way to respond to life is to be assertive<\/em><\/strong>: We speak our truth from a self-respectful and self-responsible place, owning our feelings and addressing others respectfully as well.\u00a0 Assertive statements generally begin with \u201cI\u201d:<\/p>\n